In Continuum.

Guest Starring: Agent Aria

Before any of you read this and go why does this guy sound so different, well, it's because it's not your regular writer here but a guest. (: Hello, this is Agent Aria making a cameo appearance because she is bloody stressed and frustrated with studying Social Methodology for her paper tomorrow, of which, it is not even done...more like, she's done FOR.

Right, now that I've introduced myself by speaking in 3rd person and comfortably ascertained everyone's thoughts that OMIGOD SHE SOUNDS PSYCHO, yes, hello to everyone too. -waves-

I was chewing over this train of thought while listening to Alanis' "You Oughta Know" after digging up a couple of old CDs which I burned during JC for my old school discman...and I thought if it was right of me to want to be friends with some of my friends' ex-es. Because in all honesty, if you look at it from a perfectly rational point of view, it does not make sense for me to go on a hate campaign against some of my friends' ex-es. One, whatever that transpired between them has got nothing to do with me. Two, it's not as if their ex has a personal vendetta against ME which I'll be compelled to be defensive about.

But...the tricky thing is that this is YOUR friend that is in question here. She or he may be hurt, and being the outsider, I may not fully understand that extent of betrayal and so, it is easy for me to be less angsty about it. Of course I'm not denying the inital stage where you rally around said friend and lambast The Ex. But down the road...time heals all hurts, and by lambasting The Ex...it doesn't help said friend move on either. Sure, in times of need we need a bit of solidarity, but it shouldn't overrun to the extent of molly-cuddling and not allowing said friend to grow up and learn from the experience as well.

But seriously, ultimately...in the long run, bluntly put, the issue at hand doesn't really concern me. Of course if The Ex tried to hit on me or slandered said friend's circle of friends...then it's a different matter altogether. In this instance, The Ex would have proved how much shame he/she brings to his/her gender and there's really no point in associating with such a person.

I'm not saying I'll go out all out be nice and specially meet up for coffee sessions. More like, if we happen to bump into each other on the streets, is it oright to wave, say hello, acknowledge their presence and show no hint of animosity (because you really don't hate them or anything) or...in the spirit of loyalty to friend, you a) make some disparaging remarks b) walk right on by c) stab The Ex with the Look of Death.

I think I'd still opt for the former. It is precisely because where emotions are concerned that we lose our senses and we ought to try harder and practise some level-headed rationality.

(of course during sleepovers, it's alright to bitch. hello, sleepovers ARE made for bitching man!)